Today I looked at the calendar and realized that we are smack dab in the middle of 2018. It's officially summertime and it's time to sit back and unwind, yall. While the rest of the year is in-queue, there are still a few things that I'd personally like to scratch off of my list.

Save more money. Change my diet. Find a church home. Discover additional writing ventures. Travel more. Fold my clothes - you know, stuff like that. As I danced around with those thoughts, I couldn't help but recollect the past six months, and all of the events that had transpired. Some good, but some not so good. If I had a multiple-choice option on how to rate my year thus far, I would probably go for the "satisfactory" bubble. Although great things and necessary changes have granted me a few victories - I can't say that I'm overjoyed with the state of my life right now - but why is that?

Maybe it's certain situations?

or weird phases?
Or all of the above!

Recently, I've been in deep thought regarding this - and in summary, it's because of circumstances. The external situations that alter my temperament. Some of them I can control and some are beyond my control. So how exactly does one react to these constant, yet temporary, annoying occurrences that we call circumstances?

I mean, they're always in the way, they always come when you least expect it and they never stop coming for you. Although they're inconvenient, I've learned that circumstances are a part of life and regardless of where I find myself in life, I will always have to deal with and react respond to my circumstances - period.

I'm personally at a place in my life where I am done with allowing my circumstances to affect me and most importantly, affect my happiness. It wouldn't matter how much money I had in my bank account, how many places I've been, how great my friends were or how high my level of achievement was in my career - circumstances will always come to challenge me, and I believe that my happiness should be constant, in spite of whatever comes my way.

So what if my job isn't ideal or if I don't have a ring on my finger (...yet). So what if I couldn't buy those concert tickets because Geico wanted their money. So what if 'such and such' is tripping. So what if my life isn't perfect or the way that I think it should be. I have to make a choice to be happy and preserve my happiness - owing to the fact that happiness is not circumstantial.

Millionaires and public figures who "live the good life" and travel the world far and wide are taking their own lives at the hand of circumstantial happiness. People who inspire and influence many are battling depression every day - all in hopes that they'll achieve happiness once everything in their life is perfect - which will never happen.

Happiness should be perceived as a choice, not an accomplishment. So right now, at this moment, I choose happiness. Over anything. Over anybody. Over any circumstance.

May the rest of my year bear witness to that :)

Thanks for reading!



  1. Beautifully written, per the usual! Keep living your best life my love!!!

    1. Hey shug!!! I so appreciate you consistently reading my posts :) Love you!