I remember when I decided to start a blog. At that time in my life, I was glowing up, coming into my own and finding my stride on the voyage to grown-womanhood. Since that was such a pivotal phase in my life, I wanted to capture all of those moments and milestones along the way to becoming unapologetically me. Four years and a couple of revamps later, here we are. Just thriving in the blogosphere!

When it came to picking my blog title, it was actually a lot easier than I had anticipated. I remember jotting down a few cute and catchy name to nab the ears of the audience - but they just weren't sticking, or fitting me the way that I had wished. I was looking for something simple that would embrace who I was - but also serve who I desired to be. And just like that, it came to me - True to Lu.

This has been my "brand" for many years and genuinely, I couldn't have picked a better title. TWL is more than just a name on a site, it has become a way of life. An affirmation, my mantra - and it means everything to me.

If someone were to ask me what it personally means to "True to Lu" - the answers would be never-ending and ever-changing, but here are a few that are paramount:

True to Lu means...

Can you truly love yourself if you don't know yourself? I don't suppose so. Personally, I feel that self-love begins with self-awareness. Knowing exactly who you are, flaws and all - but also accepting who you are (in spite of those flaws). This notion has made me a lot more comfortable with my blemishes. I mean: I can be sensitive. I battle a people-pleasing spirit. Oftentimes, I wait too long to speak up, until I can't take it anymore. Other times, I obsess too much about things that I can't control. But you know what, that is me (and there is always room for improvement). Through all of my complexities, I can still smile back at the woman in the mirror - with no apologies. She's self-aware yet self-acceptant - and I love her for that.


The other day, I came across a great article that touched on the importance of speaking your truth and reclaiming your voice. After reading, I took a moment to reflect on how far I've come. Once upon a time, I was afraid of my own voice. I was the most passive, "peace-making", self-betraying punk on this side of the Mississippi. No matter the situation, the answer was always yes and never no. The choice was always everyone else and never me. I made myself suffer for years, by failing to awaken my truth. One of the reasons behind it was fear. I always had this fear of conflict, disappointing others, being misunderstood or turned backs. But somehow, someway, I found the audacity to say "damn that!"

Being in harmony with myself became a lot more important than being in harmony with other people - and that cognizance has changed my life. Since I started empowering my truth and telling people how they should (or should not) treat inner peace has been like chicken soup to the soul.

Nothing haunts us like the things we don't say.


It's a given that the physical attributes of self-care are of the essence - I mean, they keep you alive and well. Spa-days, balAanced diets, and weekly workout sessions are all fine and dandy, but what about the rest of you? What about your mind, your spirit, your emotions? Facets like such deserve daily nourishment, as they contribute to your ultimate self-care. That may mean different things to different people, but this is what care-of-self means to me:

  • MIND// social-media breaks, turning off the TV, sitting in silence, quarterly vacations.
  • INTELLECT// reading books, writing, discussing things that I'm passionate about.
  • SPIRIT// acknowledging God, talking to God, listening to God, thanking God.
  • EMOTION// processing all emotions, forgiving others, forgiving myself, creating BOUN-DA-RIES!

As you can see, self-care is multidimensional and every layer of who I am needs some good loving. Right now, my routine needs a little work and I'm recognizing a few areas that need some extra tending to - but hey, at least I have a plan.


If you want to be happy, be.

Most of us can agree that happiness is not circumstantial. Our contentment and quality of life should remain constant, unconcerned with the ups and downs we may encounter, right? This is a concept that I still wish to master, but I believe I'm on the proper path. In the process, I'm cherishing my happiness in any way that it comes to me - it can be as small as satisfying a dessert craving or as major as an international travel venture. Either way, I'm holding it high regard, since my happiness has everything to do with and nothing to do with anyone else. Investing in my own happiness is one of the most rewarding principles that I have accounted and I intend to make this an ongoing priority.


On a final note, being true to myself will always be a progressive experience. Through every season of life, True to Lu will always be a thing. T2L may not always be a blog, but the values behind it will always remain. <3 

This above all: to thine own self be true.

Thanks for reading!


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